Taking Control Of Your Life!
The first step to being able to stop an unwanted behaviour is realising that you are actually doing it and being aware when it's happening. For me this hit me between the eyes when I was sitting after the couch after eating the biggest serve of cold rock ever and I realised how sh*t I felt! Why was I actually doing this? It was a weird feeling, knowing something is really bad for you but doing it anyway.... It's almost like waking up and suddenly realising what you've just done!
Last Saturday I felt myself getting the feeling again (you probably know the one) this is called "the gap" – it's the time between the feeling you get (craving the ice cream) and actually partaking in the behaviour (eating the ice cream). To actually be able to change the behaviour you have to recognise the gap and realise that you have a choice. Have you ever heard a smoker say they can't give up? Like it's actually impossible to do it. They can give up they simply choose not to which is ok, as long as you recognise it's a choice.
Anyway so when I felt the feeling this time round I recognised the gap and made the decision to change my behaviour. I tried to tune in to how I was feeling at the time and the things that were coming up were stressed, angry, disappointed – in general not great feelings. I decided that I needed to do something to make myself feel good (without giving in the ice cream – short term solution) so I went for a run. It was pretty difficult to actually put the shoes on but you know what, after finishing I felt at least 3,000 times better than before I left. Even more than that I felt empowered that I was able to change my negative behaviour and turn it into a positive one. It made me realise that I have the ability to change any behaviour I choose, it's a easy as following the same principles.
1. Recognise the behavior
2. Tune in to the feelings you get before you do it (so you can recognise the gap).
3. Change your behaviour during the gap.
4. Tune in to how you feel afterwards (this will help to reinforce that thebehaviour was the right thing to do).
To wrap it up I think too often we make excuses for our behaviour (myself included). If you recognise the fact that you have the ability to change anything you want you become an incredibly powerful person! The only person stopping you from making the changes you desire is the person staring back at you in the mirror.
I'd love for you to share your story or if you have any behaviour patterns you need to change in the comments below
Dedicated to your fitness success,