My Top 6 From The First 26
So today is my birthday! I turn a ripe old 26
I was driving around last night in a bit of a reflective mood and thought it would be cool to share with you some of the biggest things I’ve learnt in my old age….
Before I start I want you to know that I am about as far from perfect as humanly possible so please don’t think that’s what I’m trying to portray here. I’ve failed many more times than I’ve succeeded – I’ve probably just done it quicker and more often than most which means I’ve had to learn a few harsh lessons pretty quickly!
So let’s get into it – my top 6 lessons from my first 26 years
1) Your environment is critical.
You become more like the people you spend time with. This means if you want to grow you need to spend more time with people who have what you want. It also means you have to spend less time with those who feel it’s their duty to drag you down. I call these people the “crabs” in your life. Why? Because if you put crabs in a bucket every time one of them looks like getting out one of the others drags them down and tries to climb over them.
Look after your environment in 2 ways: 1) Eliminate the crabs (if you can’t eliminate, severely limit your time with them). 2) Hang out with the absolute best! Listen to audio books in your car, read their books etc…
Spend your time with great people, they'll lift you up - this is me with my mate Zac who plays AFL for the Gold Coast Suns.
2) Time is your most precious commodity.
I like the saying “You’re not here for a dress rehearsal” or in other words you’ve got to make the most of the time you have because you don’t get it again.
So next time you’re umming and agghhhing about whether to have a go at something or stay in your safe little comfort zone ask yourself this question. “When I’m lying on my death bed, will I regret not having a go?”
This lesson hit me in the face when my buddy Jason passed away in a car accident aged 21 years and 29 days old. You never know when your time is up so make the most of it!
3) There is no such thing as good or bad.
What??? Let me explain You see the only reason we see things as good or bad is because of how we perceive them. There’s a great saying “we see the world not as it is but as we are.” We have all had different lives with different experiences which has shaped our beliefs and attitudes differently. This is why someone sees a pile of metal while someone else see the making of their son’s new billy cart!
So next time something “bad” happens challenge yourself to think differently. I mentioned my buddy Jason before… No doubt a young man passing away is a sad thing for many people but you can choose whether it remains a sad thing or whether you want to do something good with it. We chose the latter and created The Jason Rich Foundation which since launching around 3 years ago now has funded over 600 year 12 students through a full day of Defensive Driving training. In fact we have another 48 going through this weekend! Pretty “good” result for something "bad."
This is a sketch of a picture of me and my buddy Jason at my 21st birthday - neither of us had anything to do with the whole in the wall later... honest!
4) You always have a choice.
In the book The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People Steven Covey says something along the lines of “in the gap between stimulus and response lies our power.” In other words you get to choose how you respond to any given situation. That’s what makes us unique to most other animals – our ability to process information and make a decision.
Use your power wisely, if you catch yourself saying something like “I couldn’t get out of bed this morning” – challenge yourself and take responsibility. You had a choice; you chose to stay in bed. That’s ok, but you didn’t “have” to do anything.
5) You need a great team.
I mentioned before about the people you hang out with. Even further to that you need to build a team to help you get what you want out of life. If you want to be an A grade player in life you need to surround yourself with A grade players.
Everyone’s team will be different depending on your goals but it could include your personal trainer (I know a few if you’re looking)… your accountant, your physio, your doctor etc…
Building a great team will be effort well rewarded!
6) You can do it.
It might sound a bit cliché but do people who do great things have magical powers?
My suspicion is that they don’t – they do however think differently. Great people don’t sit around feeling sorry for themselves, they don’t partake in gossip, they don’t waste their time arguing with strangers on facebook (that could be lesson number 7….They go after their dreams like there is no tomorrow – because guess what? There might not be a tomorrow!
The way I see you have 2 choices in life. You can go and build the life of your dreams or you can help someone else build theirs but I can guarantee no one is going to go out there and do it for you.
Bonus Lesson! He who moves on quickest, wins.
Stuff is going to happen. The person with the ability to get on with things is always going to have an advantage over those who dwell on mistakes and things that have gone wrong. Life’s too short to have a bad day –at most you’re allowed a bad half hour, then get on with it!
Well, there you go
I hope in some way that helped. I would love to hear what you think – post a comment below and let me know if you can relate to any of these.
Until next time, stay positive and think big!
Dedicated to your fitness success,